Yes!!!!!!!!! there are no supermen

There is this funny yet sad thing that i have been noticing for some time now. all around me i see a lot of people with failed relationships, with things that did not work out between couples for some reason or the other. and while i am no one to comment on what was right or wrong, i do notice one peculiarity. And that being, the guy always being the one in the wrong.


Till sometime back, i also saw it this way only. i would always see my own bretheren as the ones who would by their crass nature spoil relationships and all. yes i did that. and yet today i read this one comment somewhere on a post of another spoilt relationship ( i am sorry if i am rude in counting out the relationship, but having seen so many, i cannot but view it absolutely dispassionately). and while there were a lot of comments about how the boy was absolutely crass and all and people said things to the extent that the lady was better off without him, i read this one comment, which talked about looking from the boy's angle. and that set me thinking.


We all are humans, we all have emotions, boys or girls. so why is it, that all the time it is the boy who gets painted as the evil was a first question i asked? and just like that comment, why is this not brought out that he also has to have balance between his family and the one person he now loves. And if he unable, to strike that balance finally decides to choose the family, why is he made to be the one who is in the wrong. whereas, if the girl does something similar, she is shown to be in the right. after all family matters.

No i dont intend to play a blame game here. i dont want to pit one against the other too. and i do have the strongest amount of disgust for some of the guys who have played real truant. i know some have.

But sometimes relationships going just fine also break off. and while it would be very easy to put the blame on the guy for being insensitive, for not taking a stand ( especially if he was the one who took the first step), if one were to look at it a little more dispassionately, one would realise that really speaking no one would be to blame.

Sometimes, circumstances just about arent in your favor. and then, since the breaking point has to be some reason, it takes the form of ( unfortunately so), the boy taking some unreasonable stand. True, here in lies the inherent emotional immaturity of the boy who is not able to balance things as well as the girl of his age. a girl would be much more emotinally mature and stronger than the boy her age...more specifically this tender age of between 23-25.

Its very easy to say that one has to keep a distinction between the different catagories of people that you love, as in your family, and then the one. But here when you are talking of an amalgamation of the two sets, will it anyway be simple?

This is not to say that reasons given by a person are correct. no they are not. but then as i said, sometimes when it has to break, it will break. there are things that will be in your control and things that will be not.

at the end of it, i guess its only the circumstance that you can actually blame.

Its easy to paint one as the victim and the other as the criminal. to be frank there are no vicitims and there are no criminals in this game. all are just........humans........humans who falter, humans who make mistakes, and sometimes those mistakes hurt others too. yet humans who learn from those mistakes.

No man is complete without his woman. So also no woman is complete without her man. Nature has built us so that both complete each other. And so we keep looking for that half our lives. Sometimes we find someone, who we think completes us. and sometimes we make mistakes in that. And sometimes even when everything works all right, circumstances do not. so we loose it. and then we get into this blame game.

I have as yet not seen one story where a guy is portrayed as the victim. i am sure there must be one there too. but again, the same argument should hold true. Circumstances.


Guess there really are no supermen. And when failures do happen, its circumstances that govern more than anything else.

chaos.