Aah, it sounds good now. For sometime now, ive been thinking of giving a new look to my cherie here. so i decided to rename her, gave her a new url and change a few things around. She looks pretty now doesnt she?
Welcome aboard dearest.
Saturday, March 24, 2007
Wednesday, March 21, 2007
Budday hai ji
Its my dearest buddie's birthday today.And just as i was wishing her today, i just got transported back in time, aeons ago, to when birthdays used to be so much fun. A gala event to look forward to. The preparations for the same would start days in advance. With mummy first taking us to the new clothes store to buy us new clothes, a sparkling new style frock for my sister and a brand new pair of those jeans shorts ( oh were they in vogue then) and a t-shirt. The two-three days before the d-day would be spent, crafting all the invitation letters. I still remember the trademark cards. A coupe of baloons with the bunny in between. Then going all around the colony inviting all your freinds. Papa would be busy decorating the house with baloons and those red and blue and yellow and green colored paper strips. and a lot of other things. of course with our bhaiyas help. In fact when i was in roorkee, we had Phoolchand and suresh bhaiya, who were experts at conjuring all sorts of baloons. and then papa would chalk out all different sorts of games to be played and prizes to be given to the winning children. and of course there was the return gifts to be given. Celebrating a birthday was a project in itself, and the deadlines had to be met. The repurcussions could be disastrous you see.
On my eigth birthday mummy did something special. One, we celebrated my birthday and my sister's birthday together. and mummy learnt some new recipes for cakes from Rashmi aunty. in fact they together baked two cakes, a bunny rabbit shaped one for my sister and a long train shaped one for me. the train had one engine and three wagons attached to it. It looked beautiful but the bunny was even cuter. and i remember getting jealous at my sister.
Anyways, so thats how it used to be. on the day, you would go to school wearing one of those new dresses. Teacher would make you stand in front of the class while everyone sang happy birthday to you. and then you would go ahead and distribute toffees to everyone. Evenings would be great too. the party, all the kids partying around. you the center of attraction. everyone giving you all those presents you could not wait to open. and dare if anyone not come without a present. boy i was so devilish, that once a couple of my freinds they came to the party, but they did not get the present. and i went up straight to them and gave them that look before asking " where is my present"...........i still remember the scolding i had got later from papa. and it was lesson in manners too for me. That was papa for me, loving always, but quick to set me right if i did things wrong. and of course so was mummy.
Well, to end it all, birthdays were always that much fun. Of course, as we grew up these things seemed kinda arcane. The home parties gave way to outings,the toffees to a treat for freinds at the school canteen ( the wearing of civil dress to school had been done away with much earlier), and when we came to college, to more elaborate katao the budday boy/girl plans.
Yet those early birthday parties remain my sweetest memories.
Anyways, this post is actually dedicated to my dearest buddy. dunno why today suddenly brought back all those memories. :)). A very very happy budday to you once again buds.
Chaos.
On my eigth birthday mummy did something special. One, we celebrated my birthday and my sister's birthday together. and mummy learnt some new recipes for cakes from Rashmi aunty. in fact they together baked two cakes, a bunny rabbit shaped one for my sister and a long train shaped one for me. the train had one engine and three wagons attached to it. It looked beautiful but the bunny was even cuter. and i remember getting jealous at my sister.
Anyways, so thats how it used to be. on the day, you would go to school wearing one of those new dresses. Teacher would make you stand in front of the class while everyone sang happy birthday to you. and then you would go ahead and distribute toffees to everyone. Evenings would be great too. the party, all the kids partying around. you the center of attraction. everyone giving you all those presents you could not wait to open. and dare if anyone not come without a present. boy i was so devilish, that once a couple of my freinds they came to the party, but they did not get the present. and i went up straight to them and gave them that look before asking " where is my present"...........i still remember the scolding i had got later from papa. and it was lesson in manners too for me. That was papa for me, loving always, but quick to set me right if i did things wrong. and of course so was mummy.
Well, to end it all, birthdays were always that much fun. Of course, as we grew up these things seemed kinda arcane. The home parties gave way to outings,the toffees to a treat for freinds at the school canteen ( the wearing of civil dress to school had been done away with much earlier), and when we came to college, to more elaborate katao the budday boy/girl plans.
Yet those early birthday parties remain my sweetest memories.
Anyways, this post is actually dedicated to my dearest buddy. dunno why today suddenly brought back all those memories. :)). A very very happy budday to you once again buds.
Chaos.
Tuesday, March 20, 2007
Exquisite is the word
Trust Pritish Nandy and team to showcase emotions in their truest sense. And showcase they did. "Just Married". A beautiful and poignant story about two souls and their relationship, from complete strangers to sudden bonding by the system of arranged marriage, to the intial apprehensions to the new life, the getting to know and understand each other, the slow build up of trust, despite the one off tiff. A tiff, that is short lived and yet is natural when two people come closer and try to get on. But all this kaleidoscope of emotions, was portrayed in a way no other movie i know has done. Simple, yet touching.
The story. The boy and the girl meet at a common wedding, but no interactions. The girl is surprised her freind has become a bride without even knowing who the man is. The boy is equally astounded his freind has come from the US to become the groom without knowing who his bride his. Ironically, the boy and the girl find themselves in the same situation, wherein they are engaged after a while, without knowing each other at all. They voice their apprehensions and yet finally bow to their parents wishes and get married.
The movie explores the relationship as it develops between the newly wed over their honeymoon weekend. The intial formality, the girls inhibitions, the boy trying to understand her, the final breaking of the ice between the two, a small misunderstanding, a little bit of pain, as the two want to make-up but find it hard to do so, and yet the finale when they do start believeing they are made for each other. All this, beautifully woven into a poignant story. and interspersed by the romance between the 60 something couple out to celebrate their 40th wedding anniversary, and that of three more couples. All in relationships of a different variety. yet bonded by that common thing, love and respect for each other.
And yeah they show the mellowness of age. when the protagonist, in a moment of frustrating at having had a tiff with his better half, asks why do people get close enough, if it only has to become a habit......why do people love if it just ends up becoming a silly habit. And the old man replies " If it had not become a habit, i would not fear for her when she gets sick, i would not get scared at the thought of age creeping on her".
A must see, sweet and wonderful movie this one.
Chaos
The story. The boy and the girl meet at a common wedding, but no interactions. The girl is surprised her freind has become a bride without even knowing who the man is. The boy is equally astounded his freind has come from the US to become the groom without knowing who his bride his. Ironically, the boy and the girl find themselves in the same situation, wherein they are engaged after a while, without knowing each other at all. They voice their apprehensions and yet finally bow to their parents wishes and get married.
The movie explores the relationship as it develops between the newly wed over their honeymoon weekend. The intial formality, the girls inhibitions, the boy trying to understand her, the final breaking of the ice between the two, a small misunderstanding, a little bit of pain, as the two want to make-up but find it hard to do so, and yet the finale when they do start believeing they are made for each other. All this, beautifully woven into a poignant story. and interspersed by the romance between the 60 something couple out to celebrate their 40th wedding anniversary, and that of three more couples. All in relationships of a different variety. yet bonded by that common thing, love and respect for each other.
And yeah they show the mellowness of age. when the protagonist, in a moment of frustrating at having had a tiff with his better half, asks why do people get close enough, if it only has to become a habit......why do people love if it just ends up becoming a silly habit. And the old man replies " If it had not become a habit, i would not fear for her when she gets sick, i would not get scared at the thought of age creeping on her".
A must see, sweet and wonderful movie this one.
Chaos
Whew!!!!!!
Its been a whirlwind of an extended weekend. Extended, because monday here was a holiday on account of Gudi Parv, the marathi new year. Well it was actually not extended for me, coz i was working till late on saturday night.
But its been a whirlwind for a different reason. And thats coz i met neha and pragati, my old school buddies. Neha had come down from bangalore for an official trip to pune so she came over here. And so the three of us got together and had some real nice time. But well, not before some other excitements, like me getting held up in office for a time longer than i thought, neha getting delayed at her office, and starting late from pune and reaching late here in mumbai, my indicating to her, that i might just get a little late in picking her up, and she getting all red, rightly so. Then my asking her to stay at my place for the night, since it was too late to drop her at her guest house which i did not know the exact location, and then when she agreed, to very calmly leave her alone and go back to office coz the boss called. Boy, I could just about picture her, ready to tear me apart with something. But well, you know me, i am a devil. and i do like to take advantage of the fact that my freinds are all gems.......errr and i know you too are one, and will not show this to neha. promise???
So moving ahead, we had a nice sunday evening together, chittering chattering about all the things that life had to offer, and that we as young 5th class kids did in school. I for sure must say these two freinds of mine have a strong memory. goes to show i am getting old. and i better do something about it. And yeah we had a photosession all of us. Just about brought the whole of mumbai to a standstill, with these two dudettes and the stud along with them. Lolzzzzzz. it was actually crazy, all of us clicking snaps like mad while we waited for the local at bandra station. and we did allow one uncle ji to explore his photography talents.
The evening ended with all of us landing at pragati's place for some time, me showcasing my horrible dancing skills, and finally bidding the two ladies good night, before i returned to my den.
And today me and neha, we went to watch this movie that both of us really liked. and the movie deserves another post so ill write again a little later.
a wonderful weekend, lots of lovely moments and all caught within myself to savour. It sure is great to meet old time buddies. Makes you want to come alive all over again.
Chaos
But its been a whirlwind for a different reason. And thats coz i met neha and pragati, my old school buddies. Neha had come down from bangalore for an official trip to pune so she came over here. And so the three of us got together and had some real nice time. But well, not before some other excitements, like me getting held up in office for a time longer than i thought, neha getting delayed at her office, and starting late from pune and reaching late here in mumbai, my indicating to her, that i might just get a little late in picking her up, and she getting all red, rightly so. Then my asking her to stay at my place for the night, since it was too late to drop her at her guest house which i did not know the exact location, and then when she agreed, to very calmly leave her alone and go back to office coz the boss called. Boy, I could just about picture her, ready to tear me apart with something. But well, you know me, i am a devil. and i do like to take advantage of the fact that my freinds are all gems.......errr and i know you too are one, and will not show this to neha. promise???
So moving ahead, we had a nice sunday evening together, chittering chattering about all the things that life had to offer, and that we as young 5th class kids did in school. I for sure must say these two freinds of mine have a strong memory. goes to show i am getting old. and i better do something about it. And yeah we had a photosession all of us. Just about brought the whole of mumbai to a standstill, with these two dudettes and the stud along with them. Lolzzzzzz. it was actually crazy, all of us clicking snaps like mad while we waited for the local at bandra station. and we did allow one uncle ji to explore his photography talents.
The evening ended with all of us landing at pragati's place for some time, me showcasing my horrible dancing skills, and finally bidding the two ladies good night, before i returned to my den.
And today me and neha, we went to watch this movie that both of us really liked. and the movie deserves another post so ill write again a little later.
a wonderful weekend, lots of lovely moments and all caught within myself to savour. It sure is great to meet old time buddies. Makes you want to come alive all over again.
Chaos
Thursday, March 15, 2007
Yes!!!!!!!!! there are no supermen
There is this funny yet sad thing that i have been noticing for some time now. all around me i see a lot of people with failed relationships, with things that did not work out between couples for some reason or the other. and while i am no one to comment on what was right or wrong, i do notice one peculiarity. And that being, the guy always being the one in the wrong.
Till sometime back, i also saw it this way only. i would always see my own bretheren as the ones who would by their crass nature spoil relationships and all. yes i did that. and yet today i read this one comment somewhere on a post of another spoilt relationship ( i am sorry if i am rude in counting out the relationship, but having seen so many, i cannot but view it absolutely dispassionately). and while there were a lot of comments about how the boy was absolutely crass and all and people said things to the extent that the lady was better off without him, i read this one comment, which talked about looking from the boy's angle. and that set me thinking.
We all are humans, we all have emotions, boys or girls. so why is it, that all the time it is the boy who gets painted as the evil was a first question i asked? and just like that comment, why is this not brought out that he also has to have balance between his family and the one person he now loves. And if he unable, to strike that balance finally decides to choose the family, why is he made to be the one who is in the wrong. whereas, if the girl does something similar, she is shown to be in the right. after all family matters.
No i dont intend to play a blame game here. i dont want to pit one against the other too. and i do have the strongest amount of disgust for some of the guys who have played real truant. i know some have.
But sometimes relationships going just fine also break off. and while it would be very easy to put the blame on the guy for being insensitive, for not taking a stand ( especially if he was the one who took the first step), if one were to look at it a little more dispassionately, one would realise that really speaking no one would be to blame.
Sometimes, circumstances just about arent in your favor. and then, since the breaking point has to be some reason, it takes the form of ( unfortunately so), the boy taking some unreasonable stand. True, here in lies the inherent emotional immaturity of the boy who is not able to balance things as well as the girl of his age. a girl would be much more emotinally mature and stronger than the boy her age...more specifically this tender age of between 23-25.
Its very easy to say that one has to keep a distinction between the different catagories of people that you love, as in your family, and then the one. But here when you are talking of an amalgamation of the two sets, will it anyway be simple?
This is not to say that reasons given by a person are correct. no they are not. but then as i said, sometimes when it has to break, it will break. there are things that will be in your control and things that will be not.
at the end of it, i guess its only the circumstance that you can actually blame.
Its easy to paint one as the victim and the other as the criminal. to be frank there are no vicitims and there are no criminals in this game. all are just........humans........humans who falter, humans who make mistakes, and sometimes those mistakes hurt others too. yet humans who learn from those mistakes.
No man is complete without his woman. So also no woman is complete without her man. Nature has built us so that both complete each other. And so we keep looking for that half our lives. Sometimes we find someone, who we think completes us. and sometimes we make mistakes in that. And sometimes even when everything works all right, circumstances do not. so we loose it. and then we get into this blame game.
I have as yet not seen one story where a guy is portrayed as the victim. i am sure there must be one there too. but again, the same argument should hold true. Circumstances.
Guess there really are no supermen. And when failures do happen, its circumstances that govern more than anything else.
chaos.
Till sometime back, i also saw it this way only. i would always see my own bretheren as the ones who would by their crass nature spoil relationships and all. yes i did that. and yet today i read this one comment somewhere on a post of another spoilt relationship ( i am sorry if i am rude in counting out the relationship, but having seen so many, i cannot but view it absolutely dispassionately). and while there were a lot of comments about how the boy was absolutely crass and all and people said things to the extent that the lady was better off without him, i read this one comment, which talked about looking from the boy's angle. and that set me thinking.
We all are humans, we all have emotions, boys or girls. so why is it, that all the time it is the boy who gets painted as the evil was a first question i asked? and just like that comment, why is this not brought out that he also has to have balance between his family and the one person he now loves. And if he unable, to strike that balance finally decides to choose the family, why is he made to be the one who is in the wrong. whereas, if the girl does something similar, she is shown to be in the right. after all family matters.
No i dont intend to play a blame game here. i dont want to pit one against the other too. and i do have the strongest amount of disgust for some of the guys who have played real truant. i know some have.
But sometimes relationships going just fine also break off. and while it would be very easy to put the blame on the guy for being insensitive, for not taking a stand ( especially if he was the one who took the first step), if one were to look at it a little more dispassionately, one would realise that really speaking no one would be to blame.
Sometimes, circumstances just about arent in your favor. and then, since the breaking point has to be some reason, it takes the form of ( unfortunately so), the boy taking some unreasonable stand. True, here in lies the inherent emotional immaturity of the boy who is not able to balance things as well as the girl of his age. a girl would be much more emotinally mature and stronger than the boy her age...more specifically this tender age of between 23-25.
Its very easy to say that one has to keep a distinction between the different catagories of people that you love, as in your family, and then the one. But here when you are talking of an amalgamation of the two sets, will it anyway be simple?
This is not to say that reasons given by a person are correct. no they are not. but then as i said, sometimes when it has to break, it will break. there are things that will be in your control and things that will be not.
at the end of it, i guess its only the circumstance that you can actually blame.
Its easy to paint one as the victim and the other as the criminal. to be frank there are no vicitims and there are no criminals in this game. all are just........humans........humans who falter, humans who make mistakes, and sometimes those mistakes hurt others too. yet humans who learn from those mistakes.
No man is complete without his woman. So also no woman is complete without her man. Nature has built us so that both complete each other. And so we keep looking for that half our lives. Sometimes we find someone, who we think completes us. and sometimes we make mistakes in that. And sometimes even when everything works all right, circumstances do not. so we loose it. and then we get into this blame game.
I have as yet not seen one story where a guy is portrayed as the victim. i am sure there must be one there too. but again, the same argument should hold true. Circumstances.
Guess there really are no supermen. And when failures do happen, its circumstances that govern more than anything else.
chaos.
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